For the stillbirth and the live ones. For my books, degrees, and all the other
ways I have betrayed you. For unlinking our arms a dozen times the year before
your surgery, unconvinced you needed that relief until the afternoon I walked
up from the subway station and that before you saw me, I then watched you
on the street, alone without even a rail, lurching and winding. The calls, of
course, that I did not return, the care I would not acknowledge out of cowardice
and a hope to never need you or to need anyone. For every question I refused
to answer, or did not answer generously. For remembering the orange juice you
put in the guacamole and the sprouts washed in hot water. That this list, like
your prescription deliveries and the group chats, will end before either of us is ready.
About the rug you saved for, and the man who pretended not to speak the street
language, your holding up the cash as you pointed to what you wanted. I’m sorry,
he said, I can’t understand you. You know, mama, that I am sorry differently; I promise
you I will not say it to be cruel or polite: that never will I be so banal, so American.
Cindy Juyoung Ok